100th Post-So I Went on a Date.....

100th Post! What a milestone! I was going to do the Top 100 things that annoy me, even had Mel helping me out, but did not want to bore everyone...oh you want to hear about the date...

So I went on a date. It's been almost three years since my separation and subsequent divorce. It's been a roller coaster three years. To give you an example of how long it's been since it has become just Preston and Mommy-here is Preston about one week before his wonderful father took off.

I know, I mean really who can leave this adorable face? I don't care if you hate me-look at him! (Although in the word's of my ex husband he never left Preston he left me-semantics, semantics). No need trying to figure out that which can never be figured out. Since my divorce I went out a few times with an old friend from work, but nothing serious. Then I knew I would be moving to Virginia way before I gave notice at work, so I did not want to start a relationship only to have one of two things happen: 1) break it off to move to Virginia like I had planned or 2) not break it off and stay in New York. I wanted to give it the ol' college try here in the VA so I chose not to get involved. Until my friend here in Virginia started hinting that a single friend of his was interested in meeting me for dinner.

I agreed to do the couples dinner-meaning my friend, his wife and this guy who we will nickname X. X was someone who had job security, liked his family, no issues with my status as a single mom. So far so good right? I saw a grainy Facebook profile picture while I know my friend showed X all my pictures on my profile. He still wanted to go out so this was a good sign. I stressed over my outfit, jewelry got my eyebrows waxed that day. And then there was the meeting. We met, made small talk and were all seated at the table.

First thing X did was comment on the shape of someone's head. Nice-I'm thinking maybe you can talk about Preston's heart shaped head? I mean the very first thing you do is make fun of someone? I am not going to sit here and pontificate that I have not made fun of someone. I have. I think we can all say we have done this, however this is supposed to be a first "date." Ok so I think maybe he is nervous I'll let it go. Then halfway through the meal he tells me about a witness he has to question and then proceeds to use a not so PC term. Suffice it to say that the guy then put me off for a comment about the handicapped. I just could not get over it. Perhaps because I curse like a sailor and totally did not even use the word "damn." I am thinking that on the first date you may not want to show these particular traits. And to be honest I was not attracted anyway. You need some form of attraction and although people can grow on you (hence my Ryan Seacrest crush), after the comments I knew I could not do dinner alone with X. Apparently he was upset that I thought that of him and wanted to explain himself, but there was no need since I did not see us as a good match anyway. I think he is a nice guy, just bad first date ethics.

I applaud myself for trying. I also think I am not good at showing signals to someone I may be attracted to. I feel I have been out of the game so to speak for so long! I really don't want to do Internet dating because frankly it frightens me. I feel maybe now that I am starting a new job I will meet more people and maybe that special person. Is it that hard to meet a really nice person, willing to love not only me but this?

(Must give credit to Aunt Melski for the shirt-and apropos too)! There was someone else I had been interested in, but I guess my signals were not all that apparent. Hence why I decided to go on this date. Maybe I need the straightforward tactic like I used to use in my pre-marriage days? Ok the date was not a total disaster-it got me out there again. So I am proud of myself for that alone!

In other news, Aunt Pat, who is also my godmother, came for a few days this week and we had so much fun. Since I took off this week before starting my new job, it was nice to have her and my mother around to spend time with! Preston loved having my Aunt Pat here, even though he never says "Aunt Pat" just "Pat." I really miss seeing her pretty much weekly so now these visits are very special. Because my mother was in New York last week, Preston had not seen my dad for two weeks. To celebrate Papa took us all out to Glory Days for dinner last night!

Got to love that Sheriff and Mater also came out with us! Now if you really want that list of things that annoy me though-I will not disappoint!